We immediately liked what we saw and felt, it felt like a home

10 Nov 2020

This is a case study of Barbara by Jane (May 2019)

Mum was a very strong independent lady and at the age of 90 still refused to have any form of help, getting rid of home help we arranged for her and refusing to have meals on wheels. This all changed suddenly in December 2018 when she suffered a severe stroke leaving her without speech and a right sided weakness. I was with her at the time, it was very frightening. She was in Frimely Park Hospital for two months in that time they told us she was at the end of her life several times but each time she pulled through.

At the end of January 2019 they told us mum was ready to be discharged but due to the effects of her stroke it meant there was no way she would be able to go back home and would need to go into a care home. Mum had told us in the past she would never go into a care home but there was no choice her care needs were too high to be cared for at home. It was very hard for us, we knew we had to find the right care home for her. Social Services at Frimely Park Hospital were helpful and gave us names of several homes they wanted us to look at. The homes we were asked to look at we knew as soon as we saw them were not for mum she wouldn’t have liked them, they were also too far for me and my sisters to travel to.

We had to get it right for mum, she brought me and my sisters up by herself, worked all her life and was always fiercely proud and independent.

Ashton Manor Nursing Home was on the list, it came strongly recommended so we looked it up on line and there were some very good reviews, we liked what we saw and visited the home. We immediately liked what we saw and felt, it felt like a home. The dining room is lovely, the bedrooms look new and the garden is beautiful. The assistant manager showed us around and showed a great interest in mums needs and the carers were lovely you could see they really care, we were over the moon. We were told we could also bring in her recliner chair and photographs and pictures familiar to her.

It took some negotiating with Social Services to get them to agree the fee but both the social worker and Carla Ashton Manors Manager were very supportive and we got there in the end.

Since mum moved in we have seen improvements in her, she is trying to talk, the carers are great they seem to know what mum wants and needs, they seem to understand her. She will smile at the carers so I know she likes them and she grumpy sometimes so I know my mum is still with us.

She is spending more time in the lounge with others, she never did this when she lived in sheltered housing. She doesn’t join in but she seems to be taking an interest.

Since being at Ashton Manor they have arranged for mum to get the health care support she needs, she has seen the Speech and Language Specialist for her swallowing, she has a pureed meal but even appears to be improving in this area and they are now trying a different consistency of food. She has seen the dentist to get the right teeth for her and she is regularly receiving physiotherapy. When she first entered Ashton Manor she could not sit up leaning forward as if she was going to come out her chair, but this has changed, she is now sitting up beautifully with the aid of cushions which means she can see what is going on around her.

We are really happy with Ashton Manor and for mum we are seeing a good happy recovery taking place.

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